Dealing with MrCharisma

Do you ever find yourself in situations where you feel
overwhelmed by the person who is speaking to you It is as if
their charisma and enthusiasm takes over and you just cannot seem
to think for yourself For a moment you are lost in a blur of
their words
The worst part is the fact that you cannot seem to regain
composure or even assert your own opinion What is the solution?
How to assert yourself in the face of a wave of charisma:
1 Break Rapport
What? Yes, break rapport but do so gently by adjusting your
posture and by changing your rate of breathing MrCharisma has
you locked into deep rapport with his every word and every
movement
Until you regain your own pace, your own natural breathing
rhythm and your own posture you will be subject to his lead
Notice how you feel in your body, put some of your attention back
onto yourself Only then will you be able to think for yourself
and to form your own opinions
2 Filter The Words
Once you have regained a sense of how you feel and think in the
present moment it is time to filter the words that MrCharisma
speaks so eloquently A filter will help you to maintain this
sense of self and the ability to think for yourself
A visual filter is easiest for some people Imagine a wall in the
air between you and him, a wall that filters the words so that
you only hear the words without feeling drawn into his world
Other people prefer a auditory filter Imagine that your ears
can be tuned in like a radio You only hear the words not the way
the words are manipulated to effect your emotions
Choose a filter that appeals to you and use it to help you think
independently so that you can evaluate what you are listening to
Why does this work? By using your imagination in this way, you
are using the power of your right brain to help you get what you
want
3 Take Back Time
Take time out from the onslaught Either ask directly for time to
consider what is being said or occasionally repeat back what he
is saying in your own words By paraphrasing his words you will
regain control of the flow of the conversation You will also
be showing that you are listening and understanding what is
being discussed
It is simple at this point to take charge by asking questions
Whoever is asking the questions is generally in charge of the
conversation so use this skill to assert your authority Then use
this time to decide what *you* think
MrCharisma can easily take charge unless you understand how to
regain composure Break rapport, filter his words and take time
to formulate your own opinions

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