Be Her Best Friend

BE HER “GAY BEST FRIEND”
Then pounce It’s a cliché because there’s truth in it: gay men
get closer to women in a way that the average hetero guy just
doesn’t Here’s how it works :-
1 OPEN YOUR EYES Like women, gay men are sticklers for detail -
and no gay man would fail to notice a woman’s
hairdo/shoes/earrings, or to compliment her on them But don’t
simply say that her new dress is “nice” – tell her its a
fantastic color and looks expensive A detailed compliment
sounds much more genuine than a general one
2 EMPATHIZE Straight men don’t do empathy That’s because,
unlike sympathy, its hard work It requires you to put yourself
in someone else’s shoes to understand their feelings And gay
men are masters at it If a woman cries, a straight man will pat
her on the back; a gay pal will join her in the wailing – and
sometimes that’s exactly what a woman wants
3 DROP THE MACHO ACT Chest-beating may impress your male peers,
but it doesn’t work with women In fact, one of the main reasons
women and gay men get on well is because of their shared
loathing of aggressive macho posturing That’s why, when
confronted with a violent situation, 80 % of women say they’d
walk away or negotiate the situation rather than get stuck in
4 EXPRESS YOURSELF Facial expressions are integral to the way
gay men (and women) communicate According to Alan Pease,
co-author of Why Men Don’t Listen And Women Can’t Read Maps,
women use six listening expressions every 10 seconds, while men
only have one Study her expressions and try to copy them
5 LET DOWN YOUR GUARD Stoicism may well be an effective male
self-defense mechanism, but it’s as boring as hell to women
Vulnerability, on the other hand, is sexy Gay men have always
known this So next time you’re with a woman, drop the
stiff-upper-lip act – be bold and say that sometimes you can’t
cope and burst into tears Then let her pull you close to her
breast
6 BLINK According to the Families Social Capital Research
Group, the absence of any sexual agenda with gay men boosts
women’s self-esteem – they feel valued for their personality
Men, however, are programmed to nipple-gaze, which tend to
reveal your true intentions So, to disguise your interest,
flutter your eyelids

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