Are You Superficial?

“So many things I would have done, but clouds got in my way” from Both Sides Now by Joni Mitchell

Like the clouds in Joni Mitchell’s song, words get in our way all the time Have you ever stopped to think about the power of your words? Especially the words you use all the time

Besides the value of words for sharing ideas and experiences, words can also cause us to limit our understanding of the people and things in our lives After all, words are only shortcuts we have invented to describe something in our reality Words are not the objects they describe

You might think of a word as the surface of a lake The reality lies under the surface Most of the time, we don’t dive in to see what’s under the surface We’re satisfied to skim over the surface

Think of some of the words you use to describe the people you know Have you ever called someone stupid or ugly? Once you have labeled them as such, isn’t that the way you tend to view the every time you see them The words you use have effectively put blinders on you It becomes almost impossible to see them any other way, doesn’t it?

Or consider the words used to describe people in the news The media uses carefully chosen words and names to create the images they want you to have in your head Maybe you read about the debate over what to call the unfortunate people in hurricane Katrina’s path Are they refugees or what?

Here’s a list of seven words Take a minute to think about what each word on the list means to you Your meanings will be personal and unique You may be surprised at what you discover

Success

Happy

Love

Money

God

Work

Friend

Here are some questions to ask yourself as you think about each word

Is my definition of the word accurate? Where did my meaning come from? Does my meaning lead me to greater understanding or does it stop me from seeing a bigger picture?

As you do this little exercise in self awareness, you will begin to see how the words you use everyday have the power to control and limit your life Awareness is the way out of this trap

Ask someone to define the words from this list How close is their meaning to yours? Listen and compare Are you beginning to see how easy it is for misunderstandings to happen?

Now here’s one more question you can ask yourself any time you find yourself shortcutting with a convenient label

What else is there about this person, this place, or this thing, that I’m missing?

About the Author

If you enjoyed this article, you can read more of Tom Donaldson on his BLOG, PhreMind Freenotes Life at http://PhreMindblogspotcom

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